Author: James

Since its establishment in 1972, Baptist Student Hostel (formerly Baptist Youth Hostel), has been a home-away-from-home for young people coming to live and study in Palmerston North. It is owned by the Baptist Union and consists of a 33-bedroom hostel, four-bedroom flat for students with special dietary needs, and three additional flats that students can rent. A Board of Trustees has governance oversight while daily operations are entrusted to a couple who live on site.

Baptist Student Hostel was nearing its fiftieth anniversary when Lucas Abbott moved there from his home in Carterton, in the Wairarapa, in 2022:“I’m originally from Wellington but moved to Carterton with my family in 2013 before heading to Palmerston North to begin a Bachelor of Arts in Media Studies.”

At Rathkeale College near Masterton, Lucas flourished in literacy-based subjects like English and History. After considering following in his father’s footsteps by taking up computer science, Lucas instead opted for a career in the media industry.

Choosing Palmerston North over Wellington, Lucas attended a Massey University Open Day and found out about the hostel around the same time. He decided to drop in while attending the Open Day, meeting then-managers Graeme and Sharon Roff – “I felt completely welcomed and decided I could see myself living here”. He completed an on-line application that night.

Although uncommitted to Christianity at the time, Lucas’ application was still welcomed. “Back then, I was never really a committed Christian; I was curious about faith but didn’t feel called to it.” At the hostel Lucas came to feel included by other students, with new-found friends making the effort to involve him in conversations and activities. “I was invited to explore faith, but it was never forced. I remember asking myself, “How do I connect with this?”.” Lucas was on the way to discovering much more about who God is.

Lucas reckons he became ‘more comfortable in his own skin’ as a result of joining Baptist Student Hostel. Previously he struggled with self-image and found social situations challenging. But getting to know people in the hostel helped Lucas open up, and he became a more confident version of himself. Such notable changes were positively commented on by his parents whenever he returned home.

Lucas eventually returned to Baptist Student Hostel, not once, but twice, ending his residency at the end of 2024. “The hostel became for me not just a community – it became like a found family, almost.” What helped was the hostel’s smaller, more intimate size and the pastoral care that resulted from being there. Since then, he has made some enduring friendships.

On completing his degree, Lucas moved into one of the hostel’s flats with four friends. The transition to working life hasn’t been easy. After several months of job seeking in a tight market, Lucas eventually found work as a Communications Assistant at Te Manawa, the local museum, art gallery and science centre. And being in the flat has created special memories. “I’ll miss it when I leave (at the end of this year); I didn’t expect it to be so profound.”Getting work has helped restore Lucas’ confidence and hope for the future.

Lucas’ faith journey continues. A major turning point came at the end of his third year of study, when, after receiving guidance and some practical discipling, Lucas is steadily getting to know God. “Somebody wisely told me that the Christian life is not a sprint, it’s a marathon – it’s for all of life. I’ve needed to dig into reasons about why faith is important. It’s completely liberating.”

Now on the board of Baptist Student Hostel, where he advises on multi-media marketing, Lucas says that he sees the hostel from a different perspective and with a renewed sense of appreciation.“I’m grateful for everything the hostel provided me with”.

Since its establishment, Baptist Student Hostel has seen around 1,500 young people head out into the world. It continues its legacy of helping young people get a strong start in life as they move away from home. The managers would love to hear from anyone who has lived at the hostel and can be contacted on 06 355-5107 or info@bsh.nz. Applications for 2026 are also open for intending students.

More information on Baptist-run student support and accommodation can be found on the He Rito website.

Original article posted on Baptist New Zealand

Photo: Lucas Abbott, by Tony Rasmussen

In the heart of Palmerston North, the Baptist Student Hostel (BSH) stands as more than just a place of residence for first year tertiary students. It is a haven of faith, warmth, and community, shaped by the dedicated leadership of Graeme and Sharon, who have served as managers for the past ten years. In this article, we delve into their journey, the unique challenges and rewards of managing a Christian student hostel, and the enduring impact they’ve had on both residents and the local community.

A Faithful Decade

Graeme and Sharon embarked on their roles as BSH hostel managers in January 2014, answering a call to continue a legacy that spanned 17 years.  Their backgrounds, including Graeme’s service as a youth Pastor and Sharon’s administrative position at Massey University, positioned them uniquely for the responsibilities that awaited them. Their diverse experiences, ranging from banking to running businesses and youth ministry, provided a solid foundation for the multifaceted role of managing The Baptist Student hostel.

The decision to transition into student hostel management was motivated by a desire for change and a shared love for working with young adults. As parents of five children, Graeme and Sharon recognized the importance of creating a space where students could experience personal, academic, and spiritual growth. The opportunity to be part of a ministry supporting young adults in their relationship with Christ resonated deeply with the couple, setting the stage for a decade of impactful service.

Rewards of Faithful Service

The most rewarding aspect of managing BSH, according to Graeme and Sharon, lies in witnessing the spiritual growth of young adults during their time at the hostel. From baptisms to the formation of lasting friendships, the couple finds fulfillment in being part of a community where students are nurtured in their Christian journey. 

“Seeing several residents come to faith be baptised is wondered aspect of the role.  We have met some awesome people during our time and it gives us a sense of hope knowing these talented young people are part of New Zealand’s future.”

Graeme & Sharon

BSH isn’t just a place of residence; it’s a community fostering connection that extends beyond their time at the hostel.

Memorable Moments of Christian Community

Annual events at BSH take on a unique flavor in a Christian context. From opening day gatherings to formal dinners where residents dress up for lighthearted photos, each event reflects the warmth and camaraderie of the Christian community within the hostel. The history of formal photos, dating back to 1972, adds a layer of tradition and continuity to these cherished moments. Additionally, witnessing residents find love and attend weddings further underscores the sense of family fostered at BSH.

“It’s also great to see residents succeed in their studies and progress to graduation after all their hard work. There have also been great times with banter and discussions over meal times and kitchen clean up.“

Graeme & Sharon

Adapting to Changes and Navigating Challenges

Over the years, Graeme and Sharon have observed significant shifts in the student accommodation landscape. The move to online exams and classes has transformed the university experience, impacting the time students spend on-site. Financial cutbacks and course reductions at Massey University have affected students’ academic pursuits. Additionally, the emphasis on pastoral care, highlighted by the passing of “The Pastoral Care Act,” reflects a broader industry shift that aligns seamlessly with BSH’s commitment to nurturing the whole person.

The role of hostel managers comes with its share of challenges, from handling personal conflicts to addressing changes in residents’ circumstances. For Graeme and Sharon, the key to overcoming these challenges lies in drawing on their collective wisdom and experience. Open communication, a willingness to find resolutions, and a deep sense of compassion have been instrumental in navigating the complexities of managing BSH.

Creating a family-friendly atmosphere has been central to Graeme and Sharon’s approach to navigating challenges and overcoming challenges. Their success to building relationships and community impact at BSH, lies in their commitment to fostering an environment where residents feel at home, safe and free to be themselves. This commitment has resulted in meaningful relationships, especially with Residential Assistants (RA’s) who have become an integral part of the hostel’s community. The couple’s connections with other student accommodation managers and local youth pastors have further strengthened ties with the wider Palmerston North Christian community.

Reflections and Words of Wisdom for Successors

As they prepare to pass the torch to new managers in 2024, Graeme and Sharon offer simple yet profound advice. Emphasizing the power of food to connect with residents’ hearts, they encourage the incoming managers to be authentic, enjoy getting to know the residents, and not to stress over minor details. Their wisdom reflects the essence of creating a nurturing environment where the Christian values of hospitality and love shine through.

“The most important thing we feel is trying to
live out Christ, reflecting him in what we do.” 

Graeme & Sharon

Looking back on their time at BSH, Graeme and Sharon find joy in the maturation of students and the lasting friendships forged within the hostel’s walls. The positive feedback from appreciative parents underscores the impact of the caring environment fostered at BSH, and they encourage their successors to be mindful, and encouraged by, the wider impact they have on the friends and family of their residents.

Graeme and Sharon’s accomplishments such as upgrades to hostel buildings, the creation of a self-catering flat for residents with dietary needs, and the completion of a comprehensive management guide stand as testaments to their commitment to excellence.

As Graeme and Sharon reflect on their journey, they acknowledge the significant impact working together 24/7 as a couple, had in drawing them closer together. The flexibility of the role, combined with job-sharing, has allowed them to appreciate each other’s giftings and talents. Ultimately, their decade at BSH has been a testament to faith, community, and the transformative power of a Christian hostel in the lives of young adults.

As they approach retirement, Graeme, and Sharon plan to take a well-deserved breather. Their agenda includes attending to home maintenance, spending quality time with grandchildren, embarking on travel adventures, seeking part-time work, and remaining open to the opportunities that God may have in store for them.

Closing Thoughts and Thanks

Graeme and Sharon’s tenure as managers of the Baptist Student Hostel has been marked by a steadfast commitment to Christian values, community building, and nurturing the holistic growth of young adults. As they transition into retirement, their impact on the lives of countless residents and the broader Christian community in Palmerston North will undoubtedly leave a lasting impact. The BSH remains not just a place of residence but a spiritual home where faith, compassion, and hospitality converge to create a transformative experience for all who pass through its doors.

On behalf of the BSH Board, residents (past and present), and families, we extend a heartfelt thank you to Graeme and Sharon for a decade of devoted service. Your unwavering commitment to fostering a Christian community, your compassionate leadership, and the countless lives you’ve touched have left an indelible mark on the BSH legacy. As you embark on this new chapter in your lives, may your hearts be filled with the same warmth and love that you have shared with us over the years. Blessings and gratitude from the BSH family.

The hostel was an awesome choice for my first-year accommodation, I made life-long friends, ate great food, and enjoyed hostel-wide events like paintball and bowling. Graeme and Sharon are awesome managers, super friendly, and are always keen for a chat – no matter the topic! It was also super ideal being alongside people studying similar courses to me.

“I have thoroughly enjoyed my year living at the Baptist Student Hostel. It was a great start to my life away from home and university studies. The hostel enabled to me to make great new friends in my first year. It was great living with an amazing bunch of completely individual people and being able to make life-long friends. The hostel provides cooked dinner every night and lunch on the weekends with general food available during the week for lunch, this is such a help in the first year away from and the first year of university.”

“The food is always good and special effort is always made on occasions such a birthdays, which makes the hostel really feel like home. Another great aspect of the Baptist Student Hostel is the managers who make it feel like a real home away from home. They know everyone and are always there for support and anything you might need. The RA’s (residential assistants) are older students who live with us at the hostel, they are so much fun organising activities and being available anytime for almost anything. Whether you want a quiet night in to study or a fun night with friends you can do it all. With our own rooms which include working space to study you can shut the door and put your head down for the all -important exam coming up.

“The location of the hostel is fantastic, it’s only a ten minute walk into Palmerston North CBD and with a bus station directly in front of the hostel heading out to Massey University or anywhere else is really easy. My year at the hostel is not one that I will forget and has been a great experience for me. I would recommend the hostel to any first year student looking for an awesome place to live.”

“Moving away from home can be hard and scary. I know for me, personally, Baptist Student Hostel has been a home away from home. The people, Sharon and Graeme (the managers) and the food and just everything has made it so homely and welcome. The rooms are a good size and very accommodating and there are some good times to be had in the recreation room. I am not just saying all this … these are my genuine feelings and experiences.

“The Christian aspect of the hostel has also been a blessing to me. It is so nice to know that you, at any time, can talk to someone about things that you are going through or if you are struggling. To know that you can be confident they will listen and take the time to help you. I can honestly say that the friendships I have made in the hostel, I will keep for the rest of my life. Journeying through the year really brings everyone together like a family.

“I highly recommend Baptist Student Hostel for anyone who is looking for a positive environment, where incredible friendships are formed; a place where study and development is encouraged; and where you are able to grow personally both in yourself and in your faith.”

“Moving away from home to a city where I knew only a few people was an incredibly daunting feeling at first, but I can now say that moving to the Baptist Student Hostel was the best decision my parents and I could have made. The Hostel is a bright, friendly, and comfortable place with a homely feel, making it the perfect place to live for the first year of University. After a long day of study it’s a nice feeling to know that a hot, delicious and nutritious meal and a warm room are there for you. The rooms are a great size with loads of storage and freedom to make the space your own with photos, posters and decorations.

“One of the best things about the Hostel is the support network. The friendships that I have built in my year at the Hostel will be those to last a lifetime! Through the tight-knit environment of the Hostel filled with like-minded young Christians I have made the best friends who have been there to study with, laugh with, cry with, stress-out with, do crazy stuff with and most importantly grow in faith with. Sharon and Graeme are fantastic host parents who are always there to support the students and encourage them in their studies and make outstanding meals night after night!

“The Hostel has been more to me than simply a place to live while studying. It’s become a home away from home, a vessel through which I have made joyful memories, discovered myself and grown in my faith.”